Nollywood actress Idia Aisien recently broke down in tears while speaking with media personality Toke Makinwa about the emotional pain she experienced in past relationships.
During the interview, Idia revealed that she had financially supported some of the men she dated, believing she was helping them build their future. According to her, some of the men claimed their businesses were struggling, and because she was dating with the intention of marriage, she decided to assist them.
She said:
“I used to give men money. They will say their business is bad. I will give them a couple of million. Now I am just like… You know, you are dating for marriage and you don’t want the guy to not do well. If he is trying to invest in something that is not growing… you know how they always say there are ups and downs for guys. So if you help the guy in the beginning, then later when the guy is up, he will also help you. How he treats you is dependent on how you treat him.”
However, Toke Makinwa disagreed with the idea of financially supporting a boyfriend, stating that a woman should not invest money in a man she is not married to.
She said:
“You don’t have a ring on your finger, so that man’s destiny has nothing to do with you. If it is up, down, sideways, back, left, right… that is his business.”
Idia then asked what a woman should do when she has money and her partner needs help. In response, Toke said she could only offer motivation and encouragement but would not provide financial support.
Idia also recounted a painful experience where she gave money to a man who claimed he needed it for business, only to later discover that he had used the funds to travel with another woman.
She explained:
“There was this guy I gave money and then I remember all of a sudden his phone wasn’t going through. I was trying to reach him. He then explained to me his phone wasn’t working… and then I found out he had flown a popular girl business class to Dubai or South Africa at the time.
He claimed he was in Lagos but that his phone was having issues. It was one of my brothers that told me that your boyfriend is here with a babe and I was like ‘no it’s not possible. He is in Lekki.’ My brother was like ‘are you mad?’ My brother now sent me a picture.
When I told him he was in Dubai, he said ‘no babe, my friends dragged me.’ I said but I just gave you money for business and he said it was even for the business thing they dragged him.”
The actress’ emotional revelation has sparked conversations online about relationships, financial support between partners, and the risks of investing heavily in a partner before marriage.
